Nicole came through town again today. She was on her was back from a visit up north to see her son and then was heading immediately back down south for what is ongoing treatment at this point in her life. I had met her once and she left quite the impression on me, after today, she has left an impact on my heart and mind that is overflowing with emotion but one that will last a lifetime.
Nicole is “family”. I have an extremely large family and often members get “lost” sadly. Thankfully there are times when other members of the family bring us together, even just briefly, and for a time life stands still. You are reminded of life lessons (even if they are hard and sometimes they are not easy to hear). This is one of those that I would NOT have exchanged for anything else. Some just are important gifts to someone who struggles with so much inside themselves. Without even knowing this, this young woman has literally altered my own perspective, just by her own.
Nicole is a 21-year-old woman who has led a very difficult life. There has not been at one point where she was not on the battle field in one way or another. I have been there as well, but I have essentially given up long ago, and this woman has not even started to become defeated after being brought to her knees so many times.
Nicole has seen the drugs, beatings, all different kinds of abuse from all angles. The abandonment was real and still is to this day. It came from too many people and the affects did permanent damage like it would to any of us. It continued into a difficult marriage. She was blessed with a child with more challenges and now faces the greatest confrontation yet standing before her.
At the age of 21, Nicole has terminal brain cancer. At this point and it appears it will never be operable. It lays in the center of her brain and continues to branch out like a tree. She can have chemo and radiation to try and shrink it, but at this point there is nothing else. Her motor skills and cognitive skills have obviously been affected. On a daily basis Nicole faces the threat of multiple seizures. Treatment is never-ending.
Nicole has chosen not to get a prognosis of how long she has left. She does not want a time-table. She also did not want my pity nor anyone else’s. She is STRONG! Not weak. I would be gone, empty, desolate, and given up long ago. Hell, I have just with what I have. You look at people like this in amazement and wonder – HOW? Admiration! Tears! I’d never say this to her, but I’d gladly take her place without a second thought just to give her more time. Leaves me questioning why these life’s tragedies even happen at all? And when they do…why to people that have already been through so much? And then…why is it already the young – or our younger kids?
Speaking with her doesn’t make me NOT totally question giving up ever again. But Nicole has certain changed the way I look and address just my thoughts. I cry for her endless times today. And I think about all of us who suffer from anything and Nicole makes me want to be just a little bit like her. Have a tiny bit of her courage. The willingness not to give up! I know I am weak, but what even I could have a small trace of her fight? What if we all could?
Plummeting from a compassionate pedestal once placed upon forever haunted by a fragmented clock displaying an inevitable fate castles in the air devoured by time and miscommunication
Predicted by a prophet, but imploded by fools to blind to see brilliant but adamant and too cautious because of past pain touching ecstasy, but about to walk blinded right back into the darkness
A tragedy can never be a whirlwind until the damage is permanent Embrace the catastrophe that lies before you, witness your ultimate demise Visualize if you will, if the sands of hourglass could be turned upside down
In the eleventh hour, unfeigned happiness can just slip away without sound turbulence controls situations that reach beyond anyone’s control misfortune can conclude circumstance but in the end our hearts decide destiny
The world is truly magnificent an elegant, extraordinary, simply breathtaking place capable of surrounding a soul with so much beauty never less always calamitous because of time gone by and so many hardships but it has always been there for those who dare to take hold and dream
Fear and tragedy has led too many astray for far too long imagine if it is true; within a grasp of their own choosing a heaven’s delight for eternity just for opening their own eyes to finally taste what’s escaped them for lifetime – FREEDOM to forgo a past and be aware of a life they always desired all along
Look into a mirror and see your battered soul then look into another’s eyes; not just anyone but THE one to see yourself and feel another; connect and beat as one – REVERBERATION time stops and the future is no longer in question your lives aspirations and heart are finally complete
Her infectious expressions and playful delight with no knowledge to herself; an everlasting gift to a lost soul a magnificent radiant light disrupting all the darkness making every day meaningful all over once again